We write to communicate, make lists, leave messages, write thank-yous,
correspond with family and friends, share recipes, arrange for events,
leave reminders, fill out applications, pay bills, make labels, give
directions, make complaints, take minutes… The list goes on and on.
Then there are those of us who write because we have to. We have
something to say, to explain, to teach, to understand, to envision, to
brainstorm, to remember. We need the page to seek answers, put things in
perspective, come to terms. We write to create a record, an
illustration of the evolution of our families and ourselves. We want to
leave something behind that is tangible.
correspond with family and friends, share recipes, arrange for events,
leave reminders, fill out applications, pay bills, make labels, give
directions, make complaints, take minutes… The list goes on and on.
Then there are those of us who write because we have to. We have
something to say, to explain, to teach, to understand, to envision, to
brainstorm, to remember. We need the page to seek answers, put things in
perspective, come to terms. We write to create a record, an
illustration of the evolution of our families and ourselves. We want to
leave something behind that is tangible.
Relax. Writing can take different forms and need not be the least bit intimidating.
In Success is a Journey,
Jeffrey J. Mayer recommends creating a what he calls a “master list”.
This is no ordinary, “manageable” to do list. This is a mind dump! Get
yourself a small notebook (4×6”). Make a list of every single thing you
think you need, or want, or wish to do or have: obligations, home
improvements, events, things that you really want to do with your
family, places you wish to go, shopping lists, chores, decorating ideas,
recipes, every single thing that has been running around in your mind
keeping you awake at night and making you feel stressed and miserable
I keep mine in my purse year round for writing movie ideas, books I
want to read, great quotes, gift ideas, garden ideas. Even if you don’t
use it as a check list (I rarely even refer to mine), you can look back
at it another time and be amazed by how much you have accomplished, or
how much it didn’t matter. Plus, it serves as a diary of sorts.
(Remember this: So often when we are beating ourselves up for not
getting this or that done, it is the result of our own unrealistic
self-expectations. Once I realized that no one else knows how much I
don’t get done, it didn’t matter as much!)
Another form of writing is journaling. Journaling is one of the best
things I have ever done for myself. It had been recommended over and
over before I finally decided that I was willing to do whatever was
necessary to be a better parent and a better person, and this turned out
to be the ticket.
The challenge comes not only in being faithful, but in completing the
three pages that is necessary to untangle the mess that clutters our
thought processes, preventing us from fulfilling our deepest dreams and
fullest potential.
Now, three pages is a lot to write everyday and at times you will find
yourself at a loss for what to write. So you look around you and write
about the mess, or how lovely your house is, or the weather, or any
random thing and before you know it, you have found another thread to
unravel.
Setting aside time for journaling- each morning, or while the kids are
doing their homework, or after they are in bed- will change your life.
It helps one to center; to work out conflict, anger, depression; to plan
and dream… When you have those old negative tapes running around
inside your head (“I’m fat, ugly, stupid, a bad mother, a bitch, blah,
blah, blah…”), you can get them out, over and over if need be until
they become so diluted they become meaningless; or you realize that you
can only whine so much about something before you recognize that the
only way things are going to change is if you do something about them!
Writing helps to keep your mind free so that other thoughts and
inspirations may enter. When you go back to reread your pages at a
different time in your life, not only do you have a record of
happenings, you are able to see just how far you have come on life’s
path.
When I get out of the discipline of writing a full three pages every
day, I become out of sorts and lost. Like the Master List, it keeps my
mind open to inspiration and the positive energy that helps us to create
the life we are meant to have.
You deserve to do this for yourself. Still need convincing? This will
set an amazing example for your kids. And isn’t that what being a good
parent is all about? -RDW (2007, revised 2010)
Journaling is probably the best way to diet! If you write down everything you eat all day long, you can see where the extra calories are coming from. One doc had his clients do this for two weeks. Then he locked them away and only fed them what was on their lists for the previous two weeks. Almost all of them lost weight when they ate what they SAID they ate!!!